Outsmart Stress
Whatever we practice, we get good at. Think about your repertoire of reactions. You’ve practiced a handful of them thousands, maybe hundreds of thousands, of times. Anger, fear, and frustration now happen almost automatically for you.
When it comes to stress inoculation, the basic trick is to practice a different response in the places and times when you’d normally practice stress.
Your stress response is formulaic. If I asked you right now, you could probably rattle off the symptoms:
“I get a sinking feeling in my chest, I withdraw from others, my palms get sweaty and my face gets red. I have a hard time relaxing until I solve the ‘issue’ or whatever is bothering me. I drink more than usual.”
The feedback loop involved here is simple:
Attention (focus on a piece of data, situation, or person) → Story (assessment of the situation as problematic) → Habits (stress response).
Stress inoculation involves changing the third piece of the loop: the habit. Habits can involve an emotion, a behavior, or an action—whatever response typically follows from the narrative, or the way you’re judging the situation.
Stress inoculation means changing your stress response. It can be as simple as intentionally practicing new behaviors when you feel the stress creeping in, or as complex as exposing yourself to intentionally stressful activities outside your normal field of play, where the stakes are lower. Think karaoke, bungee jumping, etc., as a form of informal exposure therapy you can do for yourself.
The important thing to remember here is this: some behavior needs to change. It may not be automatic at first, and that’s okay. Habit change can take a bit of elbow grease in the beginning, until a new habit normalizes and becomes second nature. Once it does, though, it’s easy.
Some people may say, “Well, there are always going to be stressful events in my life. You can’t eliminate stress completely.”
That belief in itself keeps us locked into expecting that stress will somehow manage to get the better of us at some point. What if you adopted, instead, the thought: “No matter what happens, I can meet the experience with calm because I’ve trained it to the point of muscle memory.”
Not only does that way of framing things feel different, but it can accomplish exactly that.
You can practice calm until it’s second nature. You can ditch the old response in favor of who you want to be, especially when it comes to stress. That way, you not only inoculate yourself to it, but you eliminate the experience entirely from your personal playlist.
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